Lists

A list of things that matter:

• Fact-checking
• Well-placed stubbornness
• Good food and good people
• Amending unhelpful rules
• Keeping records for the future
• Privacy
• Freedom within sane restrictions, i.e. no destroying the freedoms of others
• Organization, except when it's not the point
• The environment
• Respecting others, even when they're wrong
• Respecting yourself
• Honesty and integrity
• Community
• Remembering that while interesting, the news is often unhelpful
• Speaking your truth
• Simplicity
• Remembering that normal is often bullshit
• Not getting stuck in your own made-up categories

A list of advice

• Put your well-being before being normal; good people won't mind your weirdness.
• Remember that your internal critic means well, but may not be helping in the right way. Teach them how to help you.
• Live your truth, not everyone else's.
• Remember that your emotions are felt for a reason. Listen to them.
• Learn that your worth is inherent, not bestowed upon you by others. There will be no other you, and that is valuable.
• If it feels like bullshit, it probably is.
• Friends are worth more than money.
• You can never be boiled down to a clear-cut label. You are complex.
• Push yourself. Leaving your comfort zone is painful but powerful.
• Don't ignore your comfort zone in a way that breaks you. Know your limits.
• Discomfort can be a good thing. Don't avoid things that make you uncomfortable without a very good reason to do so.
• Keep asking "why?" until there's no deeper answer.
• If they won't respect your boundaries and autonomy, leave.
• Attack problems at their source rather than their symptoms.
• Remember that one-size-fits-all advice is bullshit. Take what works and leave the rest.
• Learn nuance.

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